I don't know how you speak to or about people but I came across a blog that really made me sad for the people participating in the discussions and the ones they were talking about.
They said things like: "this man of mine will be intruding on my tv time", "time to pick up the monsters from school", "my girls are making me nuts", and "I feel your pain. I had the kids home for 4 days". Even the joke the blog had as one of its posts...all derrogatory jokes about men. Yes, sometimes they can be funny (maybe - not really) but, does that make it right to say them?
I like to live my life speaking positive about people, about my life, about things. I could never refer to my children as monsters and I have never complained about them being home. My children are the light of my life and I love being with them- granted, some days require more patience than others but I can't even begin to imagine talking about them or my husband with such negative tones.
I think we must choose to speak life about people, things, situations. Our words can bring life or death - meaning, if I hear that I am a pain to someone I am going to feel like I am a pain and unloved.
I choose to honor the people in my life by using kind, uplifting words. What do you feel about the whole thing? Do you make the extra effort to speak kindly or do you just let your words fall out of your mouth like verbal diarrhea?
I know that our words will not only honor the person we are speaking about but by using uplifting words and speaking positively, we are honoring God by doing what He asks us to do, loving our neighbor.