Wednesday, May 12, 2010

Today my doorbell rang

and when I opened the door my brother (in-law) was standing on the step with a bright smile and shining eyes. 

Why is that a big deal?

We haven't had much to do with him, and he hasn't had much to do with us, over the last few years.   It has been hard.  We love him very much and we know he loves us just the same but, you  see, my brother is was very heavily into drugs and alcohol.  He just got out of detox and is on his way to a treatment center.

When I looked at his face, he looked different - clearer, brighter, lighter.  When he spoke, it was different - coherent, loving, confident.  I am hopeful for him and his sobriety.  We miss him.  The kids miss their uncle.

As he scooped Bug into his arms and Bug snuggled into his neck, Trev said to him, "I know I haven't been a good uncle to you.  I haven't been an uncle at all but that is going to change."

When he hugged me, as he said goodbye, it felt different.  He felt like he was really there! I know that in the world of those held captive by drugs, there is no certainty, but I just feel like our family is going to come back together.  We love him so very much and I plan to take advantage of him being there as much as I can for my family.

Today marks 16 days of his sobriety.  To the average person 16 days may not be a long time or be anything to excited about but, for those being held captive by the demons of drugs and alcohol, 16 days is a long time.  One day at a time right?

I cna't even begin to tell you how happy I feel right now.  Thank you, God, for the restoration of families, for the restoration of hope, for the renewing of a man's mind and vision, for freedom, for healing and for a continuing strength to endure the road he has (and we have) ahead of us.

Today, my doorbell rang and when I answered the door, it was hope knocking...


  1. That is so exciting! I'm thrilled for you and your family! I pray for his strength to make good choices!!!

  2. I am SOOO very happy for your brother, and very happy for you. I come from a family that struggles with addiction, both alcohol and drug related. I have lost several family members to drug overdoses, and I grew up without my parents because their addictions superseeded parenthood. 16 days is amazing! I will be praying for your brother, one day at a time, and before you know it, hundreds of days have passed by, it is great that your brother has a loving family to support him!!

  3. Thank you guys SO much for all your support, well wishes and sincere happiness for our family. We truly appreciate it!

  4. I can hear your heart. I hope everything works out and he gets the help and support he needs to keep him strong. What a wonderful gift!

  5. This is a great and wonderful post! One day at a time, I guess that is the same as you are waiting for your daughter too! God bless your family, that six year old looks like he is the entertainer for sure!