Thursday, September 3, 2009

Of Mice, Men and Mothers-in-Law

My mother-in-law is a meddler. How many would raise a hand to that in their own lives? C'mon! Be brave! I just put it out there; join me... please?

Her intentions are always the best; she just has no idea the ramifications of her actions or words sometimes.

Most times.

I have been doing rather well the last few days except when I talk to Mamasita. She always brings up DD2 and talks on and on and on about her and how she knows in her heart it will get better, and I end up just wanting to cry everytime she calls me.

Which she does. A. Lot. Lately.
Because she IS concerned about how I am doing because DD2 is gone and DH has been gone with work more often than not since he started this new job Aug 17.

I know she loves me and that she is doing this out of love and concern, and so, I continue to remind myself of that over and over and over during our 45 minute conversations about how "terrible I must be doing with all of this to adjust to".

No. I was fine. Thanks for making me think I shouldn't be.

She has a great heart and I know that she is doing it out of love so...I am not angry at her. I appreciate the love she has for me; at one time, she hated everything about me (2nd marriage you know; I was somehow to blame for a marriage falling apart that didn't exist when I met DH). I just wish she would understand that I am ok...until she points out how I shouldn't be ok with "all" I am going "through".

People go through worse than this. In the grand scheme of things, even though it is upsetting to us, it isn't that bad...

in comparison.

DD4 had a rough day at school today. She burst out crying in the middle of class because she misses her sister with such an intensity. She was consoled by the fact that her teacher, a friend of mine, said "I understand; we all miss her, honey." After school DD4 set her hand to making her sister a present, a rock house. I will get a picture of it on here soon. She also drew her a few pictures. It looks like we will be sending the rock house and pictures in the mail.

I wonder what postage for a house would be...?


Working on this laptop is a bit of a pain; I have to remember that there are a few letters that don't always work. It makes proof reading just that much more tedious.


I have begun applying for part-time work (mornings only) as of yesterday. If nothing pans out, I may just babysit a couple of kids...


My house has been overtaken by these irritating little flies (fruit flies?); they have taken over a couple of my plants and they are quite something to contend with. I can't get rid of them. Apparently they like it here and have moved right in. Too bad they wouldn't just fly into the lizards' know, a little snack for Fredrico and Rodriguez.


  1. I think that is the problem with Mother In Laws. They are just human but they are a different generation and not related to us by blood. Just because you love the person they produced doesn't make them a person you "click" with.

    As long as she is trying to be genuinely supportive(?) and not trying to upset you you will just have to grin and bear it. Try to make all the right sounds but in the backround you can be folding laundry, checking emails or painting your toe-nails cherry red!

    You are not alone!!!

  2. Hello!

    Thanks for commenting on my blog.

    I have cried so much in the past year over grieving the loss of my son and related issues, that I'm really suprised that I didn't cry when my friend left the lemonade on my step (see my blog for story).

    She (my friend) was actually the first one here on the scene at my house (besides the emergency crews) after we found out that our son had passed.

    She has been one of the biggest blessings to my family and endured profound tragedy along side us, by choice. She never hid from our family during that sad time and showed us a lot of support along with all of our church family.

    I love reading your blog.

    With love and hope,